Is This Abuse?

Is this abuse?

It can be hard to recognize abuse at the beginning of a relationship.

Abusive patterns and cycles tend to emerge over time and may not appear early in a relationship. All relationships are different. But if you suspect your partner or the partner of a loved one is becoming abusive, there are some signs you can look out for.

  • Telling you that you can never do anything right.
  • Showing jealousy of your friends and time spent away.
  • Keeping you or discouraging you from seeing friends or family members.
  • Embarrassing or shaming you with put-downs.
  • Controlling every penny spent in the household.
  • Taking your money or refusing to give you money for expenses.
  • Looking at you or acting in ways that scare you.
  • Controlling who you see, where you go, or what you do.
  • Preventing you from making your own decisions.
  • Telling you that you are a bad parent or threatening to harm or take away your children.
  • Preventing you from working or attending school.
  • Destroying your property or threatening to hurt or kill your pets.
  • Intimidating you with guns, knives or other weapons.
  • Pressuring you to have sex when you don’t want to or do things sexually you’re not comfortable with.
  • Pressuring you to use drugs or alcohol.

Abuse takes many forms. Click on the links below for information on abuse in specific relationships and communities.