Is this abuse?
It can be hard to recognize abuse at the beginning of a relationship.
Abusive patterns and cycles tend to emerge over time and may not appear early in a relationship. All relationships are different. But if you suspect your partner or the partner of a loved one is becoming abusive, there are some signs you can look out for.
- Telling you that you can never do anything right.
- Showing jealousy of your friends and time spent away.
- Keeping you or discouraging you from seeing friends or family members.
- Embarrassing or shaming you with put-downs.
- Controlling every penny spent in the household.
- Taking your money or refusing to give you money for expenses.
- Looking at you or acting in ways that scare you.
- Controlling who you see, where you go, or what you do.
- Preventing you from making your own decisions.
- Telling you that you are a bad parent or threatening to harm or take away your children.
- Preventing you from working or attending school.
- Destroying your property or threatening to hurt or kill your pets.
- Intimidating you with guns, knives or other weapons.
- Pressuring you to have sex when you don’t want to or do things sexually you’re not comfortable with.
- Pressuring you to use drugs or alcohol.
Abuse takes many forms. Click on the links below for information on abuse in specific relationships and communities.